Positive Parenting

The most effective forms of discipline encourage good conduct by building a mutually respectful bond with the child, letting the child know ahead of time how to act and praising mature behaviour when sensitivity, cooperation and shared positive emotions are evident in joint activities between parents and their toddlers or preschoolers, children show firmer conscience development expressing empathy after transgressions, behaving responsibly, playing fairly in games and considering others’ welfare. An early mutually responsive, pleasurable parent child tie continues to predict a firmer conscience into the early school years. Parent-child closeness leads children to heed parental demands because the child feels a sense of commitment to the relationship.

 

Applying what we know

Use transgressions as opportunities to teach.

When a child engages in a harmful or unsafe behaviour, intervene family, and the use induction, which motivates children to make amends and behave prosocially.

Provide reasons for rules.

 On long car trips, bring back-seat activities that relieve children’s restlessness. At the super market, converse with children and let them help with shopping. As a result, children learn to occupy themselves constructively when options are limited.

Arrange for children to participate in family routines and duties.

By joining with adults in preparing a meal, washing dishes or making leaves, children develop a sense of responsible participation in family and community life and acquire many practical skills.

When children are obstinate, try compromising and problem solving

When a child refuses to obey, express understanding of the child’s feelings (“ I know it is not fun to clean up”), suggest a compromise (“you put those away, I will take care of these”), and help the child think of ways to avoid the problem in the future. Responding firmly by kindly and respectfully increases the likelihood of willing co-operation.

Encourage mature behaviour.

Express confidence in children’s capacity to learn and appreciation for effort and co-operation: “you gave that your best!” “Thanks for helping!” Adult encouragement fosters pride and satisfaction in succeeding, thereby inspiring children to improve further.

 Be sensitive to children’s physical and emotional resources.

When children are tired, ill, or bored, they are likely to engage in attention getting, disorganised, or otherwise improper behaviour as a reaction to discomfort, In these instances, meeting the child’s needs make more sense of disciplining.

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